Is the one thing we called trust just a scheme of the little believe in the good of human kind? Is it just something wrong, that is doomed to be disappointed every time we feel it for someone? Or do we only have to learn, that we need lots of time, till we know who we can trust? What if someone is asking these question and still believes, that none of them should be answered with yes? Ever found someone you met the first time but was able to speak right to your heart and soul, so that you are touched by this person, drawn to another place in your mind and feel stongly that this person is someone you could tell your whole life without regretting?
The most people would say it's better to not to talk too much, to be careful, think about if this person is only showing you a wrong side of himself. But not all are doing this and also not all are thinking like this. In our live we gain many abilities, some more some less, some more extensive some only weak. Understanding a human being only out of his words, out of the pronounciation out of the sound of his voice, telling in the first place if this one is trustworthy, not lying and someone you might like from the start, this is a very rare one. It needs you to understand human behaviour in many aspects and you must be able to recognise all those little details at once in a very short amount of time, so you could make yourself a picture of this person in the first hour, sometimes even in the first 5 minutes. You may think, this is impossible, will fail very often and would bring you nothing more then ruined expectations and disappointment in all ways.
I for myself know, that I have trusted many people very fast out of those feelings and that none of them ever did something unexpected to me or something I didn't want. I learned fast what I can tell whom of them, how much and even how. So nothing ever went wrong and still I call those rare people my friends, even after years. But still the ability to trust fast is a scary one, because it also ends in a strong trust of the others. And most people don't feel very well when someone is overwhelming them with their deepest secrets, I won't also, but I'm accepting the fact that it will turn out like this and do the best out of the things people tell me. I would never betray someone who opened the most of his/her life to me, because I know how much this hurts and how much damage the personality of someone may take out of this. So there is a very strong bond between trust and soon likes, friendship and maybe love, spinned only of words, formed by feelings and finished by the first inner secret shared between each other. When you reached this, never end it, never end to trust this person and more never betray this one, it would be more than only one sadness.
So, nothing is wrong in trusting fast, if you are able to know who when and how you can trust. The thing, that many will find something wrong or bad in it is, that they are unable to fully understand the intentions of another, why this one has done or said something and so they will get a very wrong picture of a person, which is meant to be broken soon. Believe me, not many are able to life a way like this, a way of fast trusting but finding the most wonderful friendships this way. But it is still sad, because this lead us to a world of mistrust and betrayal, divorced relations and broken friendships. A sad world though. I whised the people would be able again, to look in others hearts, to see the truth in the eyes of someone, to hear the intensions out of the words only from their sound. But not many really care enough for others to do so, many won't be able to understand the importance of this and fail because of this, but it is one of the most wonderful things we could learn from and with each other. And it is a step to a greater inner peace along to the whole world I think, to be able to read a persons feeling, regardless of what and how much this one is telling in simple words. I'd love to trust everyone, but I can't, because many are simply wrong in their minds, crazy, devious and so on... but even those I can handle and can learn to get along with them, because I even know for them, what I can tell them and what not.
So when someone starts to trust you too fast, think about why, who this person is and what you feel for him/her, what you feel because of this one. Maybe you will find out, that this person is not a stranger but someone really close to your heart from the beginning and find some beautiful friendships, started with trust instead of suspicions, starting with peace instead of fighting against each other to find out if the person is worth your friendship.
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